Why do men (married) feel the need to lust after other women? Sex life is...

[Hot C]

...great, we play w/toys, watch videos? Is there something we need to worry about here? Also hubby pushing for sex with others. I'm all for same room (who cares when your with your loved on), but wants more and more. He always wants me to look for someone to add. I'm to the point I don't even want to leave the house with him. Love him, however I can take so much...

[i know it all!]

he's a freak!

[BabeHeart]

Your question isn't about married men in general, but about your husband (be careful about making generalizations) and you'd need to ask him why he desires this. Some people just feel a strong preference for variety in their sex life, no matter how much they dig their serious partner. That's why the swinging lifestyle exists (or one of the reasons).

However if you aren't kewl with his desires and don't want to be a part of that, then don't allow yourself to be pressured into anything you don't want to be. If he won't let this drop when you've expressed no desire to participate, perhaps couples counseling is in order.

[Angela M]

Men can be selfish. Also they try to push things to the limit. They want to see how far you will go since you guys have explored so much. I think you should tell him like this "If you loveme and want to be with me than you can be with just me, but if you want to be with other people than you need to let me know now because i don't know how much more i can take of this." Just tell him that you give him everything you can and you don't understand why he is dissatisfied with you and yearns for more. It will open his eyes to the realization that he could lose such a cool wife like you.

[ELVI]

sounds like he is wanting you to be a swinger. swinging isn't for everyone and it may take him seeing someone interested in you and fondling you to rise a sense of 'ownership' in him to decide he doesnt want you shared afterall. or then again it may just really turn him on to see you being enjoyed by others the way he enjoye you too. never know till you go.

[Andy S]

I have nothing to say but this:

Show me the sexiest woman... and I'll show you a guy who's tired of fcuking her.

I hope you get it !

[Mr Cummings]

you see i would love for my wife to be like that.... but she thinks its so disgusting if i tell here the things i want to do to her....I for darn sure woulkd be satisfied if my situation was like that. she treats sex like a chore doesnt want to do nothing but lay on her back...that gets so old

[Maeve]

Divorce him immediately.

[Phil M]

lusting is kind of uncontrollable, you cant really control what goes on in your head. Acting, speaking out or the like is controllable and I think you shouold have a good ol heart-2-heart with him and let him know how uncomfortable/irritating you think this is.

Communication is the key to every relationship. Try not to let emotions, which can change with the days, disrupt the flow of good communication....I know, much harder said than done.

[music_love84]

If you're watching videos, you are allowing him to see other naked woman which gives him something to lust for. In many videos, there are also threesomes which is also peaking his interest. I'd have to say lose the videos & do NOT bring anyone else into your marriage.

Another suggestion would have to be marriage counceling. Never give up until you've tried it at least once!